One of the funny things about being a doctor's wife is the stereotype and "pressure" that goes along with the territory. I never planned on marrying a doctor, but the man I fell in love with became a doctor. So I deal with the stereotype (still not sure that I can actually define it, but it's there) and try not to let it get to me. But it has, not in a taking over my life kind of way, but little ways. I must confess, I care about what people think about me. Especially because I feel that how I am perceived can be a reflection on Mike. (Not saying that's right or wrong- but that's the way it is)
One of the biggest ways this has carried over into my life is how I look, dress, etc. I am a visual person, (I'll get to the point eventually- hang with me and I will get there) and my observation is that highly visual people generally care about their appearance, and thus I care about how I look. I like to look pulled together, and stylish. I am ok with this, some people find caring about how you look and putting time and effort into your appearance a waste of time, but I am not one of those people.
Now to the part that has to do with being a doctor's wife (I told you I would get to the point); Hannah had her one year check up on Friday, and as I was getting ready, I was very aware that we (Mike was meeting me there) would very likely run into one or more of Mike's colleagues, boss, etc. (The pediatrician's office is in the hospital where Mike works). So this means I had to look nice. And not just ok nice, but nice. I think that whether I like it or not, I am a reflection of Mike. I am his wife, and that's just one of the things about marriage. So I want to be a good reflection. So I got dressed "up" (but not too dressy) and took Hannah (also dressed "up") to the pediatrician.
I realized as I was driving that I think about this a lot when I get ready each day. I often run into people Mike work(ed)s with. I also started thinking about how every day when I am putting on my under-clothes (that's not what I call them in real life, but for the purpose of avoiding googling perverts, that's what I'm going to call them) I think about what would happen if I was in a car accident and was taken to the emergency room. What if they were cutting me out of my clothes? What if one of the doctors was someone Mike went to school with? What if it was one of his friends? What if it was someone who he ends up working with? I know that doctors see all kinds of things, but somehow it's different. Let's face it- we all have clothes that we would die of embarrassment if we were seen in public in them. So let's just say that there are no panties past their prime in my drawer- no sir! No droopy sad looking bras! The minute something starts to go past its prime it gets trashed. So not only do I worry about what I'm wearing that you can see, but I also worry about what you can't see. Ahhh pressure! Now I am not saying that I always look great- ha! That's just not happening here friends, there are days that I am trying and I still look blah! But it is always on my mind- all I know is that on those schlumpy days, God forbid I collapse or have an accident!!