I have talked briefly on other posts about stereotypes that women who are married to physicians face, and my personal experiences facing these stereotypes and being critiqued about having a positive attitude towards my husband's career. One of the phrases that people google that leads to this blog is "life as a doctor's wife". I am always intrigued about who is googling this phrase, is it a medical student's wife looking for light at the end of the tunnel? Is it a woman in a serious relationship with a physician wondering what could be down the line? Or is it someone who is just curious about a life other than their own?
While I have no other experience as to what it is like to be married to someone other than a physician (Mike was in undergrad when we got married, so I guess a student is different, but medical school was the goal) I imagine that being married to a doctor is very similar to being married to anyone else. There are challenges that are unique to the profession, but I would also imagine that every career has its unique challenges. I think that is the nature of marriage, as a couple you face challenges and compromise and balance work and family. As I have mentioned before, Mike and I got married while we were both in undergrad and I knew that Mike wanted to go to medical school. It has been a major factor in our lives, but we try really hard not to let it be the biggest thing going on in our lives. This has not always been easy, we have based other major life events/ changes around Mike's school, schedule, etc. and we have invested a lot of time and money into his career. However, it is just a part of our lives. It is Mike's career, not my identity and not his.
So my life as a doctor's wife, isn't so much about Mike being a doctor. I am grateful that Mike has found a career that he is truly passionate about. And while we face challenges due to Mike's career, we try not to put our focus on them. My life is usually not what people expect, and I am often labeled and stereotyped. So anyone who wants to know what life is like as a doctor's wife, keep reading.